So! Here's the thing! If I am cleaning then I AM CLEANING. If you feel bad that I am doing it (probably because it's your mess), then you should have already done it.
I don't necessarily enjoy washing dishes, however I do enjoy a clean home, and clean sink!
One thing I will never get is people who can be at home for days, and never once unload the dish washer, and make more dirty dishes...if you have time to make dinner, and make a mess, then you can find time to clean up your mess!