Bad news never has good timing

I have been thinking a lot lately about commitment, and young love. Basically my conclusion is that young love will never work without commitment! Honestly no love will ever work without commitment. I was reading Nicholas Sparks autobiography, and he talks about how if two people aren't committed to each other, and to bettering the relationship it's basically a waste of time and neither partner will ever feel secure in the relationship. I mean how could one feel secure if he or she thought that they could just get dropped like it's hot if they got into an argument, and if things "just weren't working" Things aren't going to be all rainbows and roses, but I want to feel secure enough in a relationship that if we have an argument I know that my partner will want to work through whatever the issue may be, and not try to run away, or find a way out of the awkward situation.

A relationship as my friend Minda puts it is not 50/50 it's 100% and 100%. If you are only putting 50% in the relationship it will never work. You need to be giving it your all. If you are not, I don't want you because I will definitely be putting in 100%! Now comes the tricky part...how do you find a guy that will put in 100%. Even if you do find said guy, how do you know when the going gets tough he won't just throw in the towel, and go for a younger skinnier, less emotional little tramp?

Oh gosh! Life is an endless string of what-if's. I guess that's where faith comes in. Just let whatever is meant to happen happen...I just wish I could be more patient while whatever is supposed to happen will just happen already!

So the young love part of my thoughts...well I was thinking that the younger you get married the more you still have to grow up, and change. That would be scary to wake up and realize that you married someone, and now that they have grown up, and decided who they want to be they are completely different! SCARY! I know just in friendships people that I was friends with in high school have done 180's! Even people I met in college are still changing and trying to find out who they are.

I guess to wrap all of these random thoughts up faith is what I need. Faith and hope that God knows what's best for me, and he really does have a plan for my life, and I won't be alone forever, and I will find someone willing to give me the 100% I will give them. :) It won't be perfect, but it will be perfect for me!

The Lady is not only beautiful but fierce and is a terrible force to be rekonded

Well time to catch up on my blog I suppose! What is a day off, and procrastinating going to the gym for eh? Uh oh! I definitely should have gotten ready for the gym before I opened the curtains! It is SNOWING! Shoot! now I really don't want to go to the gym! :(

Anyway I have been meaning to write about my Valentine's Day this year! I love this holiday! Most single girls feel the holiday is overly commercialized (which it is...granted.), but I LOVE IT! What is not to love about a holiday that focuses on romance, roses, red, pink, and most importantly...CHOCOLATE! Being single on Valentine's day can go one of two ways, wallow in self pity, and cry yourself to sleep because you didn't get any chocolate or flowers, OR buy yourself some chocolate, roses, and treat yourself to a chick flick with the girls!

I honestly want to be in love so badly! I want to know what it's like to have one person love you so deeply that nothing else matters. I don't foresee that happening anytime soon though because of recent conversations I've had with the boys I associate with. Most of the conversations go like this:

"What do you look for in a girl?"-Me

"Smokin' hot!"-Boy

"Well yeah, don't we all, but what else?"-Me

"Well if she's smokin' hot what else matters?"-Boy

Hum...well there you have it. An intelligent answer by an intelligent gender I suppose. So I guess in order to meet the man of my dreams I should stop working on my intellect, and personality, and start focusing on my hot bod! Hit the gym 7 hours a day, get some fake eyelashes, blonde extensions (because let's face it which boy can't resist a blonde?), and perhaps a little plastic surgery? Well it all makes sense! That's why me, and all my amazing girl friends are still single! Well now that we have this key to catching a man I'm sure by next Valentine's Day the story will be different! YES!

NOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay seriously if that is all a guy is looking for then I don't want him. I know that the perfect guy for me exists, and if he just likes me for my looks then he is definitely out! I totally understand that you have to be attracted to a significant other. I can't tell you how many guys who frankly I am not attracted to seem to gravitate towards me, but I just can't do it. I don't blame a man who isn't attracted to me, but my question is where do I find the man that is attracted to me, AND likes me for more then my looks? Anyone know?

I am just so sick of hearing that all men care about is a hot bod! No wonder our generation has more single and divorced people than any other! We are SO picky! We seek perfection, but don't embody perfection! How hypocritical! Anyway, it will happen for me when it will happen, but I am not lowering my standards to get a man! That being said I am now going to step off of my soapbox, and tell about my fantastic Valentine's Day!

I had the best day ever because I decided to focus on other people who might feel overlooked on this lovey holiday! I made little Valentine's day packets for my roomies, visiting teachees, and neighbors. I hope it made them each feel as special as they are! I love them all! :) One of the funnest things was I closed by myself at work the night before Valentine's Day, and had Valentine's off, so I decided to heart attack the back room at work so when my co-workers came to work they would be thrilled! I cut out little hearts, and wrote cute sayings the whole evening, and it worked! I love making people feel special! My manager who I thought would think the whole thing is ridiculous loved it! I could tell that it made them all feel so special! As a thank you my co-worker bough me chocolate covered strawberries! YAY!

After making sure everyone else felt special on this lovely holiday I also did some things for myself! I went to the gym, where I was delighted with the presence of a very good looking man to look at during my work out, then I went to the Blue Lemon (the best ever!), got lunch and came home and watched The Bachelor while eating reeses eggs and chocolate covered cinnamon bears (a dynamite combo!) Then later I went to see The Vow with the girls! It was a fabulous day!